Years ago, I became isolated in my thoughts. I had allowed negatives thoughts to develop in my life’s dark room (my mind) without my permission. The pictures I got were not exactly what I expected.
My mind was clogged and I was not following God as I should, so darkness was the consequence. It was subtle, but sudden.
One day, after a hard day’s job, I was happy to be back home. As I drove in, I noticed my neighbour’s well-manicured lawn, not a blade was out of place. As I compared it with mine, my “happy- to- be- home” mood swiftly flew out the window. I did not realize I was just lured by the comparison bait.
A few minutes later, I looked out of my window and noticed a new car in my other neighbour’s driveway. Before I realized it, I had fallen for the comparison bait again!
I continued business as usual thereafter and some days later, I got an invitation to my friend’s wedding. I was disappointed and upset. All that went through my mind was:
It should have been me!
My friend was getting married to a mutual friend, who we met on the same day. However, they became very close but I could not understand what he saw in her. There it is was again, the comparison had reared its ugly head back into my thoughts!
For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise. (2 Corinthians 10:12)
I decided to try and understand the craze to get what I did not have, only to show off to those that don’t care, all because I believed I deserved it.
Women feel shame and condemnation, when they don’t measure to the standard that society has imposed on them. Shame, focuses on character; it points to a failing or short fall by comparing you to another.
Society sets the comparison bait to turn us into ingrates in the sight of God. Don’t fall prey to it! Avoid it!
Growth is the evidence of change. Growth is only attainable when you accept what is now and create a road map to affect change, so you can move into the next level. When you give yourself permission to lose control over situations you cannot control, you are ready for acceptance.
To the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. (Ephesians 1:6)
Acceptance takes a back step, when you start comparing yourself to others. As you do this, you realize that you don’t measure up because, you cannot measure up to any other person apart from yourself. Set the thermometer on yourself, not another person. Run your race with grit and conviction and don’t compare your life with others!
Once you take the bait of comparison, you cannot win. The bait is a deadly, poisonous trap of the enemy to truncate your destiny. Resist it!
Comparison has a taste that is genuinely attractive, but poisonous. The poison is toxic to our emotions as it clogs our happy juices and fills us with a sour after taste. The only way to find a lasting solution to comparison is in God.
I decided to pray to God, bringing the real issues before Him. In His presence, I found the antidote to comparison. He spoke deep into my spirit; it was gentle but clear and precise:
“You are accepted and beloved.”
My happy juices gushed out to this response; yet, I still had to deal with the deep-rooted issues that I battle regularly.
How would I manifest this acceptance in the face of real challenges like envy, jealousy and guilt?
I realized that my acceptance in God is based on HIS righteousness, love, joy and peace in the Holy Spirit. My part in this equation is just to embrace HIM.